Resolution & Healing
What is “resolution” all about?
Resolution is almost like the final resting place for both owner and pet. The owners mind is still and not emotionally torn, it finally rests. It is the final acceptance that the pet is gone and an acknowledgement that the wonderful memories left behind can be enjoyed and reflected on for the rest of the owner’s life. It is the validation that even though the pet is no longer here in the physical sense that the relationship is not gone, it forever lives in our hearts and we can draw on this strength all through our lives. It is the final resting place for the pet, and that place is within us. Finally we can talk about them more without getting emotional and choked up instead we can keep them alive by talking to them and about them. They aren’t out of our lives they are in fact deeply etched within our souls and we are better people for having them with us. This stage is when we finally have acceptance, resolution and inner peace.
The term closure conjures up the feeling that it is the end. That this is it, that’s all there is, the finality of it and sounds harsh and abrasive. When we lose a pet we don’t want that closure we want to feel that they are still around and that our missing them allows part of them to still live on, we want to hold on for dear life every last piece of them until we finally let the bitterness of grief subside. By using the word resolution instead, the door to all our feelings and emotions is not shut, just ajar
Time is a major factor in the grieving process, as we work through our grief. If we understand that over time the impact, and in our own time, the pain and hurt lessens and this is healthy. When we can finally comprehend that there is nothing to feel ashamed or guilty by experiencing some form of letting go then we can take the next step towards healing.
Letting go of the pain and anguish does not mean that we are loving our pet any less, we shouldn’t feel guilty in moving forward with their lives, is just another step closer to resolution.
If we learn to accept that our pet would want us to remember all the good times that were shared in this wonderful union and acknowledge that they are still alive and well in our hearts then the we can eventually accept and welcome resolution into our lives.
Resolution is almost like the final resting place for both owner and pet. The owners mind is still and not emotionally torn, it finally rests. It is the final acceptance that the pet is gone and an acknowledgement that the wonderful memories left behind can be enjoyed and reflected on for the rest of the owner’s life. It is the validation that even though the pet is no longer here in the physical sense that the relationship is not gone, it forever lives in our hearts and we can draw on this strength all through our lives. It is the final resting place for the pet, and that place is within us. Finally we can talk about them more without getting emotional and choked up instead we can keep them alive by talking to them and about them. They aren’t out of our lives they are in fact deeply etched within our souls and we are better people for having them with us. This stage is when we finally have acceptance, resolution and inner peace.
The term closure conjures up the feeling that it is the end. That this is it, that’s all there is, the finality of it and sounds harsh and abrasive. When we lose a pet we don’t want that closure we want to feel that they are still around and that our missing them allows part of them to still live on, we want to hold on for dear life every last piece of them until we finally let the bitterness of grief subside. By using the word resolution instead, the door to all our feelings and emotions is not shut, just ajar
Time is a major factor in the grieving process, as we work through our grief. If we understand that over time the impact, and in our own time, the pain and hurt lessens and this is healthy. When we can finally comprehend that there is nothing to feel ashamed or guilty by experiencing some form of letting go then we can take the next step towards healing.
Letting go of the pain and anguish does not mean that we are loving our pet any less, we shouldn’t feel guilty in moving forward with their lives, is just another step closer to resolution.
If we learn to accept that our pet would want us to remember all the good times that were shared in this wonderful union and acknowledge that they are still alive and well in our hearts then the we can eventually accept and welcome resolution into our lives.